I’ve written a post on this already, but, and in spite of sounding like a broken record, I’m going to write another. (Oh, and this one’s loosely related).
And the reason is because recently, I’ve read so many people complaining about how someone has offended them, with their general words.
I’ve been reading a lot of bloggers / Facebookers / news broadcasters / religious zealots, and even politicians, talking about how “offended” they are, have been, or will be, by the words spoken, or written, by others.
And I can’t, not for the life of me, fathom why!
Listen to me, reader; you, yeah you, are a dirty ass-bag. Your life is more worthless than a grain of sand; your farts smell as odious as the scent that wafts from the testicles of an overly sweaty horse, and your taste in music is more repulsive than Hitler’s taste in utopias.
Okay, so, reader, dear reader, I – I think obviously – didn’t mean the above statement. I don’t know you personally, and for all that I do know, your farts could smell lovely. But let me ask you a question?
Did you take offense to anything in that last (the one before the last) paragraph?
Cause, first of all, I called you an ass-bag. No, not a very tactful insult, but hey, it was aimed directly at you, ass-bag. Second, I told you that your life was less important than a grain of sand. Offensive? Sure, I’m “denigrating” the sanctity of, not just abortion, but your own, personal life. BE OFFENDED! Third, I claimed that your farts smell real bad. Don’t ask me why or how I know exactly what horse testicles smell like, I have my reasons. But trust me, implying that your farts smell similarly is a big dig. And lastly, you’ve, apparently, a terrible taste in music. And bringing Hitler into the equation? Common! HAW, not cool man, not cool; show some class for fuck’s sake.
Now, here’s the thing. I don’t know you. My posts, although may touch on subjects that are related to ideas, maudlin beliefs or whatever else, that you cherish, they are not directed at you! They are general, subjectively woven words that are true for me, and for me only. And just like this blog is representative of my own opinions, rants, and systems of thought, so goes the same for others blogs, articles, words, generally; in whatever capacity their thoughts / communications are being expressed.
You see; nothing, and I repeat, nothing, should be preserved in the “must not make jokes of / poke fun at / discuss openly or critically analysed” pile.
I can understand how say, for instance, if you’re religious, and someone makes a joke about your “saviour,” your blood might start to boil upon hearing / reading about this blasphemy. Or, if you’re an environmentalist, and you hear people emphatically asserting that global warming is a sort of liberal propaganda, I get how the hairs on the back of your neck might raise in preparation for battle. Or, if you’re a stringent, non-under-arm shaver, aka a feminist, and you hear a colleague mention how, ‘the only reason Susan got the promotion is because of her gigantic bazookas,’ how your left eye might nervously twitch. However, and with all due respect, chill the fuck out.
The phrase(s):
“I’m quite offended by that”
“That’s offensive”
“I find that offensive”
“You’re offending me” etc
Don’t mean a damned thing!
They should be banished from our speech, extradited to the remotest parts of our thesauruses, never to see the light of day again.
We live in such a highly manufactured PC world, where we are all, that is to say, all of us who desire to live by the standards set by the norm (the 9-5 workin, weekend reverin, beer chuggin, sweet tooth indulgin, consumers) are so scared of placing a foot out of place, that we choose instead not to walk, and to stay home.
I had a dream. I mean, “I had a dream” – MLK. That comment was made by a man who offended a fuck tone of people. Without offending people, we stagnate. We fester in our predated belief systems, rot in our dung filled crap dens, and disallow new light from shining through. Sure, here exactly is where we run the risk of opening doors for people prone to petty attacks to run wild. But all that those people are doing is exposing their own inner hatred, self loathing, ignorance, arrogance, or whatever. Something like that. It doesn’t matter.
If someone offends you personally, they’re an ass twat. If they’ve offended you generally, you’re an ass twat.
The single, and in my opinion – only – real positive that is born through our democratic systems, is our ability to speak freely and openly about all matters. “If you’re in favour of freedom of speech, that means you’re in favour of freedom of speech precisely for views you despise.” (Noam Chomsky). Without this freedom, how can we call ourselves free?
Bottom line: you don’t have a “right” (I dislike the term, “rights,” as it is also, in general, devoid of value) to not be offended.
In its stead, I’ve a proposition.
Next time someone excites the curdles in your tum-tum, instead of talking about how offended you are, which isn’t at all interesting, why not have an open discussion about exactly why you’re now suddenly feeling a little bit gassy? Expose your feelings. Let them breathe. Give them air. Let them be criticised. Let them be brought to light. Let them grow out of their own selves, and into more resilient ones.
Let the expression, “I’m offended” be banished from your vocabulary, to be replaced with something more constructive.
Humans-are-weird. And they think they have rights for fucking everything.


Are you saying you are offended that people are offended? How are you any different from a person complaining about how “offended” they are, have been, or will be, by the words spoken, or written, by others. You just seem offended as whoever you are talking about. No?
Haha Im glad you picked up on that. The effect was meant to communicate satirically, and ultra subtly. I did deliberately omit highlighting it though. But ultimately no, it doesn’t actually bother me when people talk about being offender, unless I’m talking to them and it limits our discussion. Then it’s, not offensive, but annoying.
You say it does not bother you but it is annoying. The two things are not that far apart really, offended?… annoyed? ………can you see why I am confused about this way of talking/blogging?
I have no problem with hypocrisy presented straight up as hypocrisy. Hypocrisy seems unavoidable to me in life, in my own life anyway. I would see no problem with you being offended by people being offended.
There might not be a problem with it, but I truly don’t care. I don’t have to listen to / read the stuff I bitch about. I do it for entertainment, usually. And yeah, I guess the line bw being offended and being annoyed is semantic. But context is important. Again, if someone being offended by what I’m saying, in person, restricts them from properly expressing their views, (I’m being really general about a really specific scenario here) then it’s annoying/offensive, whatever you like, in that it burdens our open dialogue. I’m also cool with hypocrisy, I just prefer to know when I’m being hypocritical.
The reason people get offended is they have a different opinion, and the sad fact is most people are not open to alternate opinions they think the opinion they have is right and anything alternate to this is offensive to them.
I’ve heard about a study that was done to show how exposing someone to an opinion they’ve not yet been exposed to triggers the same fight or flight response that is triggered when we face actual danger. ’twas supposedly done on fmri scanners or something like that. I want to find the actual research, sounds interesting/ exceedingly accurate.
Interested to read that too. I know narcissists respond like that when their opinion is challenged with “evidence”…
Does some much touted but truly non-existant ‘right’ to right free speech enter into this? People’s right to express that they are “offended” any way they want, when they want how they want. Your right to be offended, I mean annoyed, and theirs
Why am I nitpicking this ? I suppose that I am offended that you re offended, I mean annoyed, that people get offended
Yeah, why are you nitpicking at this! Grr. haha. Again, you’re missing the point of what I’m saying. I write this post, not out of annoyance, but out of something to do. The annoyance only comes in person, if I’m having a converesation with someone and they’re offended … because of their sensitivities, like jacheart mentions underneath. People can whine and bitch about how offended they are until the cows come home, I won’t shed a tear. Just as long as they’re not doing it during my conversing with them, cause then, it limits conversation. eg, if you get offended because I say god’s not real, and want to stop talking to me …. (narrow/stupid example)
I agree wholeheartedly with this post. No one else in this world has the responsibility to care for your sensitivities except for yourself.
what do you mean?
Very, very true, and a great way to phrase it. I’ve come to a point where I like being offended, cause it reminds me of the insecurities/sensitivities still affecting my brain and that I should get around to ironing them out.
Offence – what a block to a good convo; you’re so right. Have I ever said that I love what you write about; how you write it – everything, about your writing?! A little party begins within from just clicking on your site! So good.
It amazes me when I get offended by what another person has said – and then I have a laugh at me; I am so funny – we are so funny! People
The thing is, I don’t get offended when someone refers to me as a big, fat, black haired bloke. Why? because I know I’m not; I’m a short, thin, blonde haired woman. But if someone were to call me something that I might BELIEVE – I would be offended. Why? because I believe it – so why do we get cross at the other person for offending us; when we are really offending ourselves?!
Perspective.
You have said those kind things, but I encourage you not to ever stop, cause, well, I’d be offended if you did. haha. Actually I remember you saying something like that the last time I wrote a post on this topic, and so right.
I would always get a little bit upset when people would call me weird, cause I always thought myself to be a little strange, and I didn’t like it. If you can take your weaknesses and make them into strengths (not that being weird’s a strength, well, I dunno) then it does allow a lot more growth to be had.
p.s, are you English? I always assume that, unless stated otherwise, people are American. Not that it matters; just curious.
I’m an Aussie. Although I sound rather ‘English’ when I’ve a little alcohol in my system, or when I’m mucking around – a bit of a gene throw back.
Yeah, I know I’ve commented something (very) similar before – when you wrote a post similar to this one.
I’ve written aphorisms about offence too – I’m a bit passionate about this topic. And I probably quoted one of them in my comment – I always feel like a bit of a wanker after I do that, so I refrained this time.
Pfft, wank away … (ergh?) Our convict culture shuns self-promotion so vigorously that it’s always nice to see people strutting their stuff. No one’s gonna bring you down – in the deriding sort of way that Aussies do – in (or at?) this part of the internet … I control that shit, yo.
And yeah, this whole ‘I’m offending’ shit needs to stop being such a thing. It really fucking offends me.
Thanks Rob. And too right! This topic of offence is offensive – especially when people get offended, and then become offensive and offend others, just because their offended. It offends me too!
will good for u
i agree with u though u should
see the society i live in which a prison of all
emotion and thoughts so no one get offended
sometimes just showing up at some ones place would offend ppl
u could se how every one is tip toeing around each other trying not tic them of somehow
and that irks me ..
not offending and being polite or shutting the hell up
does not have the same meaning
and if a polite person does offend u somehow don’t be all ” i’m disappointed in u ”
just deal with it !! obviously that polite person doesn’t have it in for u
so grow up and try to be human <<<<<< i have had it with all the be caring and wight ur words "every fucking person around me think he's some kinda mentor or something "
thank u for this post
lama thabs